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Three ways to stay optimistic while searching for a job

Last week, we blogged about how self-knowledge is a key component of a successful job search. The post sparked an interesting discussion and was a good reminder of the complexities of job seeking that go beyond resumes and networking etiquette.

Looking for a job can be many things: exciting, tiring, inspiring, and deflating. No matter the ratio of ingredients, it’s often like being on your own personal roller coaster. Just last night, I overheard an elated new job-lander talking on her phone. She was shrieking into the receiver in a way that turned out to be joyful, but easily could have been taken as terrified. “I got the job, I got the job!” she cried, and as I passed she was launching into the sea of details. Talk about a melodrama! Of course, this is the happy emotional state we all hope our job searches are headed for, but what about the meantime?


Remember: sometimes it’s the little things that keep us happy. (Photo Credit: Peyri, Creative Commons/Flickr)

Feeling discouraged is a top complaint of job seekers, and how could it not be? If you’re doing your homework, you’re setting yourself up for regular dissection and rejection from a range of audiences. But you don’t have to stay mired in the blues. Consider these stay-on-top tips:

- Create a routine. The same advice that helps anyone facing a tough transition can work wonders for job seekers. If you’re unemployed, don’t sleep until noon one day and get up at 7:00 the next; try not to cram all your LinkedIn tasks into a four-hour period and then lose touch for two weeks. Setting up even a basic routine while you search for a job (perhaps a daily cocktail of one part surfing the want ads, one part networking, and one part researching your field—with a sprinkling of fresh fruit breaks and walks around the block) can really help keep you grounded and feeling like you’re doing “something,” even if that thing isn’t always getting a job offer.

- Explore alternatives. This one is taken directly from the brain of Dick Bolles, author of the deservedly ubiquitous What Color Is Your Parachute?. No matter how grim your employment options may seem in the dark of night, you always have options; sometimes it’s only a matter of illuminating them. For example, if you’ve been pursuing work in a certain field, try identifying two other fields you’d enjoy working in. If you spend most of your time visiting job seeker websites, look through a newspaper for a change. Just as leveraging the power of biodiversity serves evolution in nature, so leveraging the power of options serves the discouraged job seeker. Bolles writes extensively about this conviction in Parachute, but a mini version can be found in this edition of the Job Hunters Bible newsletter.

- Don’t forget to live. All work and no play will not only make you dull, it will also make you less productive. All manner of studies and experiments show that our brains generally thrive on variety—not frenzy, but not repetition, either. So be strategic: pick enjoyable break activities that have natural starting and ending points, so you don’t wind up lost in Facebook or on an interminable phone call with your grandmother when all you wanted was a brief respite from salary surveys. Try balancing two hours of hardcore job listings searches with 20 minutes of cereal eating, funny episodic blog browsing, podcast listening, or even a nap (just set the alarm!). Then go back to work feeling refreshed.

When all else fails, I like recalling the great proverb “this too shall pass.” Because even if you’re feeling down-and-out now, one day you’ll be shrieking joyfully to a friend on the phone. That’s life.

Your turn, job seekers: tell us how you keep from feeling discouraged!


  1. Great point, Galen. Exercise provides an awesome mind-body switch-up when you’re spending blocks of time sitting and focusing. And the side effects can indeed be very pleasant!

  2. Raymond Lafreniere

    The above information or should I say the useful tips helped me a lot especially right now cause I’m still i n search for a good job. Better stay optimistic!

  3. Courtney

    I needed to read this. Positive reinforcement is so nice when I’ve been spending my weekdays at my current job of looking for a job up and down and up and down and you get the picture. :) Thanks. I’ll definitely keep these things in mind. Good luck to everyone out there, like me, who’s a seeker.

  4. Lynn

    OMG!!! I really needed this today. I’ve been unemployed for a little while now and it has been really hard for me to stay optimistic. Thank you so much for this… “This too shall pass” I say this daily…

  5. The hammer toe lady

    keep ‘em comin’ DaMiss! LOVE YOU!

  6. Thanks, Mom!

  7. Sophie Rosenberg

    April Greene you have no idea how much this post made me realize so many things! Really inspiring! More power!

  8. Awesome, Sophie! I’m so glad you got something out of it.

    There’s so much emphasis on the strategic/tactical side of job searching, it’s great to see people paying attention to the personal/lifestyle side as well. It’s just as important!

  9. Scott Mathews

    Call me crazy, but seriously this made me burst into tears. I still don’t have a work right now which made me think that there’s something wrong about me until I’ve read this! Inspired and helped me a lot!

  10. Keri

    thanks so much for this article, i am inbetween jobs at the moment and it gets hard at times, i just need to be positive and more grateful that i am currently living at home with my parents who are supporting me financially, the main thing is that i need to stop comparing myself to my friends, seeing them in high powered positions makes me depressed, but no more that is their life journey and this is mine, God has a reason for me being here and i am going to take it one day at a time. so from sunny south africa-bye :)

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